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Two Weeks As A 50's Housewife-Complete!

Sorry its been so long since I posted, please forgive me.

My expenince has ended and I have learned a lot about myself, my marriage and my goals as a mother. When I first start I thought not much will be different, I do most of this stuff everyday but to my surprise lots had changed!

To re-cap here are the "rules" of a 50's housewife:

• Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
• Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
• Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
• Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dust cloth over the tables.
• During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
• Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
• Be happy to see him.
• Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
• Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
• Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
• Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.
• Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
• Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
• Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
• A good wife always knows her place

What I took from these "rules"

• Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.-This actually helped keep our evening schedule on schedule: Dinner, bath, daddy time and bed. After the first week I noticed that our family was more relaxed and calm during the evening time.
• Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.-With this rule I noticed that I really control the mood of the house without me really being aware of it, if I was in a bad mood or stressed when my husband came home his mood would almost instantly change, he would be moody and stressed. Happy mom happy family. 
• Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.-This one I decided to tell him about things the kids did without the day that was interesting or funny.
• Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dust cloth over the tables.-About 30mins before my husband comes home the kids and I pick up toys, art supplies and make sure everything is put away. 
• During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.-We don't have a fireplace but I would light candles and incenses. 
• Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.-This rule helped calm the kids down and make the house relaxing when my husband walks in. About 10mins before my husband came in the kids and I would grab a handful of books and read quietly until my husband got home.
• Be happy to see him.-Of course :)
• Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.-My husband said that it was nice to come home and be welcomed home by happy loving faces. 
• Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.-This one was hard for me at first, I was like my topics arent important thats crazy! It took him a few night to use to me not talking first but after a while I let him talk about whatever he wanted and it was nice because I didnt unload all my stress from the kids, house cleaning and what not onto him right away. 
• Don't greet him with complaints and problems.-This just made the home a little less stressed because when my husband was relaxed I was more relaxed, I did talk to him about my day just later on into the evening mostly when the kids were in bed. 
• Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.-This one didnt really come into play for us, my husband is always home between 4:45 and 5:00, he also never stays out all night. 
• Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.-Did and it helped a lot to relaxed him and help him let the work day go.
• Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.-I did this and it helped relax him just as the above one did but I didnt take his shoes off thats just gross!
• Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.-This one was really really hard because I see our marriage as equal but for the experiment I let him decide everything and after a while I didnt mind it but if something did upset me or I didnt agree with him we would talk about it in private. We have of the same goals and wants for our kids so I trusted him and his decisions about 99.8% of the time. 
• A good wife always knows her place-I do know my place its at my husbands side and no that doesnt mean I am his servant.  I am his partner, his wife and his homemaker. I am sure my husband would tell you he knows his place too-my partner, my husband and my breadwinner. 

I know this may not work for every family, every marriage or every household. Its just what is starting to work for us and because of it we are a happier, more relaxed and calm household. 

Thank you for reading!