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Two Weeks As A 50's Housewife-Complete!

Sorry its been so long since I posted, please forgive me.

My expenince has ended and I have learned a lot about myself, my marriage and my goals as a mother. When I first start I thought not much will be different, I do most of this stuff everyday but to my surprise lots had changed!

To re-cap here are the "rules" of a 50's housewife:

• Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
• Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
• Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
• Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dust cloth over the tables.
• During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
• Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
• Be happy to see him.
• Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
• Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
• Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
• Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.
• Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
• Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
• Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.
• A good wife always knows her place

What I took from these "rules"

• Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.-This actually helped keep our evening schedule on schedule: Dinner, bath, daddy time and bed. After the first week I noticed that our family was more relaxed and calm during the evening time.
• Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.-With this rule I noticed that I really control the mood of the house without me really being aware of it, if I was in a bad mood or stressed when my husband came home his mood would almost instantly change, he would be moody and stressed. Happy mom happy family. 
• Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.-This one I decided to tell him about things the kids did without the day that was interesting or funny.
• Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dust cloth over the tables.-About 30mins before my husband comes home the kids and I pick up toys, art supplies and make sure everything is put away. 
• During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.-We don't have a fireplace but I would light candles and incenses. 
• Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.-This rule helped calm the kids down and make the house relaxing when my husband walks in. About 10mins before my husband came in the kids and I would grab a handful of books and read quietly until my husband got home.
• Be happy to see him.-Of course :)
• Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.-My husband said that it was nice to come home and be welcomed home by happy loving faces. 
• Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.-This one was hard for me at first, I was like my topics arent important thats crazy! It took him a few night to use to me not talking first but after a while I let him talk about whatever he wanted and it was nice because I didnt unload all my stress from the kids, house cleaning and what not onto him right away. 
• Don't greet him with complaints and problems.-This just made the home a little less stressed because when my husband was relaxed I was more relaxed, I did talk to him about my day just later on into the evening mostly when the kids were in bed. 
• Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.-This one didnt really come into play for us, my husband is always home between 4:45 and 5:00, he also never stays out all night. 
• Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.-Did and it helped a lot to relaxed him and help him let the work day go.
• Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.-I did this and it helped relax him just as the above one did but I didnt take his shoes off thats just gross!
• Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.-This one was really really hard because I see our marriage as equal but for the experiment I let him decide everything and after a while I didnt mind it but if something did upset me or I didnt agree with him we would talk about it in private. We have of the same goals and wants for our kids so I trusted him and his decisions about 99.8% of the time. 
• A good wife always knows her place-I do know my place its at my husbands side and no that doesnt mean I am his servant.  I am his partner, his wife and his homemaker. I am sure my husband would tell you he knows his place too-my partner, my husband and my breadwinner. 

I know this may not work for every family, every marriage or every household. Its just what is starting to work for us and because of it we are a happier, more relaxed and calm household. 

Thank you for reading!

In 1 week- 50's Experiment Starts!

In 1 week from today my two weeks as a 50's housewife starts, I am full of different emotions mainly nervous and excited. But I will not be doing it all alone, a great friend of mine is doing this experiment with me. She will guest post here on my blog about her experience positive or negative she is going to tell us.  

Check out her blog-

http://litegreenmommy.blogspot.com/

So I am off to enjoy my last week as lazy housewife!!

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Two Weeks As A 50's Housewife-Coming Soon!

I had decided to do an experiment-To become a 50's housewife for two weeks!

Why do this experiment:
Mainly for fun but I am what you would call a "lazy housewife" I do most of my cleaning an hour before my husband walk through the door from work. Which has not been working out to well, the kids are running around crazy not listening or helping so what happens my anxiety goes up. Husband comes home to a stressed and frustrated wife so in turn that makes him stressed out. So I have decided thing need and will change incomes the experiment.

When will it start:
Aug 17th 2011 to Aug 31st 2011

The "Good" Wife of The 50's:

• Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.
• Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.
• Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.
• Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dust cloth over the tables.
• During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.
• Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.
• Be happy to see him.
• Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
• Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
• Don't greet him with complaints and problems.
• Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work.
• Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
• Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
• Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.

• A good wife always knows her place.

***I will not take my husbands shoes off--SICK!

What I hope to learn for this:
I love being a stay at home mother and I am hoping this experiment will help me balance housework with being a mom. Also to create a less stressed and happier home for my family. Plus a clean well organized house would be great!

Feelings before experiment starts:
I am so nervous, excited and scared but I think after these two weeks I will be use to the routine!

Note:
I will post throughout these two weeks on how things are going, my feelings, husbands thoughts and more.
Look for posts!

WISH ME LUCK........

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24 Years, 24 Lessons

I have recently had my 24th birthday, I don't see it as getting old but as a gift. I am so grateful, honored and relieved to be able to add one more year to my life. So I decided to blog about 24 lessons I have learn in my life so far. Lessons that helped form and shape the person I have become.....

Don't compare your life to others because you never know what happens behind closed doors.

 

Life is too short to waste time hating anyone!

 

Don't let the past strew up your future.

 

Don't take yourself to seriously because most likely no one else does.

 

Agree to disagree is sometimes better than winning an argument.

 

Motherhood is not always easy but it's always worth it.

 

Make everyday a special day!

 

No one else is in charge of your happiness except you.

 

Forgive everyone because anger with only eat you up.

 

Who cares what others think of you, there will always be someone who thinks your wrong.

 

Miracles do happen!

 

Growing old beats the alternative.........dying young.

 

Give your children the childhood you would want them to tell their children about.

 

Don't waste your time on envy, you have all you need already.

 

If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

 

Honesty is the only policy.

If I could pick my family......I would pick the family I have.
 
When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

 It’s the simple things in life that are the most extraordinary.
 
There is nothing to hold you back, except yourself.
 
Trust your gut. Your brain over thinks and your heart is over emotional.
 
Moving on means always looking forward and never looking back.
 
Focus on the present.
 
You don’t need as much money as you think.
 
 
So here is to 24 years of life and hopefully many many more to come!

 

Sweet Deal, Sweet Blog!

One of my great friends is doing a fabulous giveaway on her blog.
http://www.uniquelynormalmom.com/2011/06/ergobaby-carrier-review-giveaway.html

She is giving away a ERGO Baby Carrier worth around $120!! Click on the link and follow the directions on how to enter for your chance to win plus there is more than one way to enter!

But don't stop there check out her other blog posts, go ahead do it you know you want too!

Good Luck!

My Life As Mom
Crystal

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Ask Ellie!

How do you like being home schooled?
I like it. I read books, color, play and do my writing.

Whats your favorite activity?
Playing with girl toys and playing with my brothers.

What do you want to be when you grow up?
I want to help people cross the road also help cars stop.

What is your favorite color?
Purple, I love it!

How do you like being a big sister?
I like it to much.

What are some of your goals?
Pennies, diamonds and lots of coins.

Do you like having a at home mom?
Yep, my dad has to work.

Wordless Wednesday-Best Friends Also Siblings

Our Sweet Little Ones

Ellienor

Ellie is thoughtful, kind, smart, creative and graceful.

She is growing into a beautiful young girl!

Carver

Carver is courageous, active, smart, brave and adventurous

He is a great brother but knows how to push his sisters buttons

Creed

Creed is clever, charming, happy and gentle.

He is loved so much by his sister and brother.

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Can't believe how fast they grow.

They have blessed my home, my life and my heart!

Big Step, Growing Family

My husband and I have gone back and fourth for months on if we should have another child or not. I was just scared to make the wrong decision and a lot of "what if" was running through my head. So after re-scheduling my IUD placement twice I decided to do some soul searching....

We can afford four kids and we may live in a two bedroom apartment but we will be moving into our own house this time next year so I am not really worried about space or money. I am worried about...........my ability to mother four kids. Is there enough "mom" to go around and/or enough time for each child. I have noticed when I have a bad stressful day I think "No way, no more kids" but on good days (there are way more good days than bad) I think "I can see more one, I could do it"  I always think maybe my brain is over thinking the whole situation. Of course kids are stressful their kids and that's there job to grow, learn and explore but what really matters is I am willing to re-change our schedule and myself thinking to add another child.

 A friend of mine asked "Why do you have to have another one now or in a year or two? Just wait until your youngest is school aged and have another one" Answer-my siblings are eight and seven years older than me, I hated it! I didn't have anyone to play with or talk too, I was pretty lonely. Since I was a little girl I always wanted four children and to have them close together so they wouldn't feel the way I did as a child. So having one down the line when our youngest is school aged would put that baby far behind his/her siblings before putting that baby in the situation I was in as a kid.

So what have we decided......to have another one! Some may think we are out of our minds but my husband and I think its the right thing for our family. We are excited to bring another life into this world, to our home and to our family!

We are trying now until August and skipping September-February because we don't want to chance having the baby on one of our older children's birthday (they are all summer babies) plus I don't want to be in my third trimester during the summer. If we don't get pregnant by August we will start trying again in March.

Cheers to new paths, new life and hopefully a great future!

Green Rain Boots

My wonderful full of life almost 3 years old son has these green frog rain boots, he has this weird obsession with them.  He will not let them go for anything. He has a kung fu death grab on these things, he wants to sleep with them, spend all day in them and even bathe with them! I can't lie it's pretty cute that he thinks they are the greatest thing in the world, but there is one problem......

    They make his feet STINK!!

Sitting here just thinking about having to take them off to give him a bath tonight is making me nauseous! We have tried putting socks on him, he'll take them off and put the boots right back on. I even one day hid them but some how he found them. I really think the only thing to do is burn them..........I can't because he just loves them. When he wears them you can tell he thinks he is the coolest cat on the block!

Here's to a happy kid, stinky feet and the enjoys of motherhood!

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10 Reasons Why We Homeschool

We have decided that homeschooling is the best thing for our kids and our family!

1: No one has more interested in seeing our children success than we do.

2: Children who are homeschooled work at their own pace.

3: With individualized attention homeschool children accomplish more in a day than most traditional public schools do in a week.

4: Ability to travel

5: More family time

6: More time outdoors or doing activities

7: Total flexibility:

8: School 4 days a week and Friday…lets go on a field trip…where? Well, on the road endless possibilities.

9: One on one attention with each child.

10: I love knowing they are not left to fall between the cracks.

Wordless Wednesday-When I Became Mom!

Top 5 Achievements of My Life So Far

Top 5 Achievements of My Life So Far.......

1: My Children: I have three wonderful children, they are my everything and the reason I wake up every morning. I really enjoy being a mother! "Motherhood is not always easy but its always worth it!"

2: My Husband: He is the greatest man I have ever met, he is my rock, my world and my everything. I don't think I would be the women I am without him. I feel truly blessed to of met him so early in life.

3: My Doula Business: I really found my calling, seeing a baby come into the world is a empowering, blissful, wonderful (the list could go on and on ) experience!

4: Saving Money: We have started to put more money into the saving every month, its so nice to have money put away for a rainy day or a house...

5: Paying Down Debt: Its feels so nice to have no credit cards, only one car loan to pay off and no medical bills! We will never have a credit card again!

The Voice Behind "My Life As Mom"

Talking about myself has never been easy so I will keep this short and sweet!

I am Crystal, a young wife to my high school sweetheart and mother to three great kids!

At-home mom and part time doula.

Vegetarian almost Vegan, cant let the cheese go!

After searching for years for the religion that fits me, I found my path in Buddhism.

California born, Oregon raised. I love it here in Oregon!

Passionate about life, motherhood, animals and the outdoors.

I think I was born in the wrong era.

People call me a hippy and I think they are right!

My family comes first and will do anything for them.

So that's a little about me!